Daryl wrote:Sorry, cthia, but if that is true your father is guilty of quite serious child abuse.
No need for an apology, Daryl. Indeed it would certainly be characterized as such today, as many of my closest friends agree with you. And my father sat me down for a very long talk.
However, in those days, attitudes were not as severe as they are now. At any rate, I had a problem at 12-yrs-old as
discussed in another thread, that most little boys, or older for that matter, just didn't have. I developed much too early, and had a raging erection which left me in serious pain. My father was a drill sergeant at the time, and had a habit of taking matters into his own hands. His young son had a problem. Teachers made remarks. My pants were always bulging. My parents sought medical advice. The doctor simply said I was an early developer and needed to get laid. Off the record, he suggested a "professional." Therefore, my father took me to a ranch, off the record.
Child abuse? Perhaps. But, as far as I'm concerned, it was the best present I ever received. A weekend of sex education and fun. My life, and problem, changed after that. I no longer walked around with pain I didn't understand, and didn't know how to placate.
Trust me, as far as my problem was concerned, cold showers and manual stimulation wasn't paying the piper.